Fifty Shades of Grey (Fear)

Fifty Shades of Grey (Fear)

medical symbolFifty Shades of Grey?  My new name for the movie that came out Valentine’s Day is Fifty Shades of Fear. I actually do NOT recommend the movie, but since I did see it, I have reflected on the true message I see in the movie. In short, it is a story of a relationship in which a young impressionable, unworldly, young woman is controlled and debased by a powerful, handsome and wealthy man.

Despite women’s social advance, do we still fantasize about being swept off our feet by a powerful, handsome and wealthy man (knight in shining armor) who makes all our dreams come true? That is a scary thought. Beneath the racy story line, Fifty Shades of Grey there seems to me a social statement about women’s conflicts about their emancipation thus far. What do you think?

“The Ana Steele of our day is often eating-disordered, suffers very low self-esteem and her self-defeating behaviors make her vulnerable to becoming an object of other people’s desires. No matter how you look at it, Christian Grey is a textbook malignant narcissist with sociopathic tendencies, and Ana Steele is a passive dependent (codependent), masochistic  personality who uses a powerful man to explore power and sexuality” says Psychology Today.

I think it is sad that a movie about male dominance is a favorite movie of young women. Most of the people at the movie were groups of young women. I hope they go away and discuss the underlying psychology in the movie, and how wrong it is to be submissive and dependent on anyone.

I wish there was an ending that talks about  how to develop Emotional Intelligence. In 1995, the concept of emotional intelligence became popularized after publication of psychologist and New York Times science writer Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.

CLICK HERE to read my BLOG about the 7 Skills of Emotionally Intelligent People. Perhaps they could offer it as a handout as people walk out of the movie (:)